Before we start working together, I think it's important to let you know who I am and
how I got here. You know I'm a life coach, and if you wandered around my website, you know I hated being a teenager. My twenties weren't easy either. By the age of 21, I was clean and sober and trying to figure out how to be an independent grown-up with very little help.
While my early life has had quite a few challenges, I have managed to get through every single one alive. Sometimes a little scarred up, but alive nonetheless. I grew up as an only child to two very intelligent, funny, and good people. My father was a veteran (a corpsman in the navy) and a registered nurse. He was always the life of any party. My mom was also a veteran who moved on to become a registered nurse. She was less social and more of an artist type, but anyone who knew her loved her for her kindness. They were seemingly good people, and they were both addicts/alcoholics. By the time I was 5, I had a pretty good idea of how to take care of myself. I had also seen piles of cocaine on my kitchen table, watched my mom pass out and OD midsentence, and I'd been sexually abused. If that was the first five years of my life, I think you can imagine what the rest of my childhood looked like. As I became a little older and a little more aware, I had no idea how to cope with all of the chaos in my life. Eventually, I would learn that the best way to tune out the pain and the abuse was through using drugs myself. By the time I was 19, I had a severe addiction to oxycontin, meth, and heroin. I had been cutting myself nearly every day, multiple times a day, and I was completely heartbroken. My life was not supposed to be like this, and I could not make sense of why it was sucking so hard. I had to get clean, so I did on August 10, 2006. After doing so, I had to figure out how to be an adult living independently; this was no easy feat considering I hadn't even learned to tie my shoes yet!!! But I did it, I made every mistake you can imagine, and I still did it. I share this with you because I think it's important for you to know I have been through it all. I connect with teens and young adults because nothing that they can say will surprise me. I have been through just about everything you can imagine, and I remember so vividly how it felt to be young, sad, scared, and everything else. My approach to teen/college student coaching involves not only helping prepare them for the future but also forming a connection through my past and their present. In my opinion, there is nothing more valuable to a teen than having one objective adult in their life. Someone who gets them- can listen and help provide some insight that their immediate family may not have or that they don't want to hear. Together we can get through the struggles and figure out how to survive the absolute horror of adolescence. <3